Tuesday, September 8, 2009

On Moving and Friendship

It’s like dating… but a different kind.

Part of you wants to look right and say the right things and do the right things and not say the wrong things and laugh at the appropriate times and talk about the right subjects and…

But another part of you wants to be yourself. Fully. To look how you want to look and say what you’d like to say and do what you would normally do and laugh at the things that are funny and talk about whatever is on your mind, in your heart.

The one part of you just longs for acceptance.

The second part of you longs to be known for you, known for real, known by those you’re able to know.

And in the moving and the starting over and the process of friendship dating, I’ve found it incredibly important to be the second.

There is always something to be said for holding your tongue at appropriate times and being kind and polite. That is a lady’s wisdom.

But there is also something to be said for letting your laughter and your tears go… for being free in you… so you can find the ones you can be free with. That is a lady’s heart.

And the ones you find it with, you also find you never lose it with. Because once it’s gotten, it can’t be lost. That is the beauty and the truth of friendship.

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MooBee Mama said...

LOVE LOVE LOVE what you've done with the place! May God bless you with many new friends and help you stay close to the old ones too.

Ron said...

Angela, your words so resonate with me. We have moved several times ourselves, the last one from N.D. to AZ after only being in N.D. for a year. It was very difficult for me, probably the hardest move I've ever made. It is hard to be yourself, but you hit it on the nose, it's the only way to be to develop those "true" friendships. God has so blessed us and I am thankful for the hard times. {Tammy}

Aj said...

Speaking of moving...

I stumbled across your blog a couple of days ago - we are a new Air Force family also moving to the Colorado Springs area this fall.

I tried to email you a couple of days ago, but I am sure the note found itself in your spam box.

We are trying to figure out how we want to proceed with housing (since it doesn't look like we are going to get on base housing), and was wondering if you guys might have some insight? I am apprehensive to live off base because we have had our fair share of bad apples land-lord wise.

Any help would be appreciated! Thank You!

-Andrea jones.andrea@gmail.com