Wednesday, January 7, 2009
You do it, too. Someone says something nice and you don't know what to say. You get a little embarrassed, or feel a tad self-conscious. Maybe you brush it off and say something a little berating about whatever it is they just said was great about you. Or maybe you pretend you didn't hear it and change the conversation.
But think when YOU compliment someone ELSE, and they in turn say something a little berating about themselves, or pretend they didn't hear you. Or, worse yet, become obviously insecure. Then you feel badly for even saying anything.
I can hear my mother now, "Just say 'thank you.'"
Somewhere a few years back I actually started doing that. Rather than growing insecure or saying something negative to counteract their positive, I'd just say, "thank you," and smile. There are still times when I'll revert to my more immature, "Well, you know. It's not really THAT great." But for the most part, I hold my head high, smile big, and say a very heartfelt, "thank you so much."
It has something to do with confidence... and grace... and knowing there are things about you other people DO like. And the thought that when I compliment someone else on something, I really want them to know it. So, wouldn't my complimenter feel the same way?
If the person doing the complimenting goes on about whatever it is, there are different appropriate ways to direct the conversation. It's always good to share the credit, because rarely do we accomplish everything ourselves. (I mean, really. If someone is saying how well I've organized something... I didn't. Because we all know that's a huge weak-spot with me.)
So, the next time someone compliments you, smile, look them straight in the eye, and simply say, "Thank you. Thank you so much." You will exude grace and confidence.
(This is a fashion tip as well, because everyone looks better when exuding grace and confidence.)
You can find more great Works For Me Wednesday tips at Rocks In My Dryer.