Sunday, November 2, 2008

Response to "One Issue"

I've received some interesting comments to my post last week on the issue of abortion. I wanted to respond to one in particular here:

Anonymous has left a new comment on your post "One Issue":

As a born-again Christian woman who had an abortion at 8 weeks, because if I did not, I WOULD HAVE DIED along with my unborn fetus, I take offense to your extreme stance on abortion.

I was not about to leave my 2 year old son motherless to prove some vague moral point.

Anti-abortion people have this idea that women are creatures of whimsy who go out of their way to have abortions, who waddle into abortion clinics 8 months pregnant and demand them! This simply doesn't happen, this is a decision that NO WOMAN takes lightly, it is a heartbreaking, heartrending decision that women take very seriously. I have never met another woman who treats abortion flippantly! EVER.

See, the problem is, anti-abortion people scream their heads off about wanting the woman to keep the baby, but once that baby is born, "Girlfriend, you are on your own!" They continously vote to cut social services, until there is nothing left, leaving these women in even more desperate situations.

So, until I see you pay 20% of your income to some desperate teenage rape victim to send her child to daycare so she can continue working her butt off at Orange Julius, or UNTIL I SEE YOU ADOPT A CHILD OF THE 12 YEAR OLD VICTIM OF INCEST OR TEENAGER,

Get off your morally superior high horse.

And don't you dare question my spirituality or whether the blood of Jesus Christ covers me, because it does! Praise the Lord, it does!!

Dear Anonymous,

I am so sorry for the circumstance you had to walk through. The heartbreak of losing a child at any age is more than any parent should ever have to bear. I'm wondering, however, if you read all the way through my post? It addresses, although briefly, your extremely rare and horrific situation: when the physical life of the mother is at stake. When the purpose of the surgery is to save the life of the mother, and the child is lost because of it, this can be in no way considered on the same plane as those surgeries that take place to save the preferred way of life of the mother. Please read more about that here.

This issue of life is not a vague one. The Bible is very clear about when life starts:

"Before I shaped you in the womb,
I knew all about you.
Before you saw the light of day,
I had holy plans for you" Jeremiah 1:5

"For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother's womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well. My frame was not hidden from you when I was made in the secret place. When I was woven together in the depths of the earth, your eyes saw my unformed body. All the days ordained for me were written in your book before one of them came to be." Psalm 139:13-16

And it is very clear about the value of life:

"The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full" John 10:10

While many women struggle greatly with the decision of whether or not to end their child's life before actually following through with it, I personally know of those who do not. You said, "I have never met another woman who treats abortion flippantly! EVER." I have. There are girls that do not comprehend the weight of their decision. They are pregnant. They do not want to be. An abortion seems to be an easier alternative to carrying the baby to term and dealing with the consequences of it.

There are those that argue abortion needs to be legal so we can save these women from back alley, botched abortions, so we can prevent their injury or death from seeking to end their unwanted circumstances in a dangerous and life-threatening way. I would be curious to know the statistic of women who underwent these procedures when abortion was illegal, compared to the statistic of women who are no longer able to conceive or, worse yet, lose their life now because of legal abortions. I would also be curious to know the statistic of previously illegal abortions compared to currently legal ones. Something that is readily accessible is readily accessed.

Two wrongs do not make a right. Legalized killing of children is not the answer to unwanted pregnancy, just as legalizing drugs to reduce the crime rate and overcrowding in jails is not the answer.

This is why my husband and I support crisis pregnancy centers, such as Care Net, so these women can know they are loved and supported, that there are other options. And this is why we support Proposition 4 in California, because a 12 year old girl should not be able to be taken for an abortion by her school guidance counselor without her parents ever knowing. My children's nurse cannot give my children tylenol or even chap stick without a sign doctor's note. But if a classmate of Taylor's became pregnant, she could be taken to terminate the baby without her parents ever even knowing anything occurred.

I have many dear friends who have been blessed with the joy of children because the birth mothers chose life for their unborn babies instead of death.

I have an amazing 12 year old son because I did not choose to maintain my preferred way of life. I chose my son's life. It was an easy to decision to make because I know firmly the value of life... but it was NOT an easy road to walk.

This is not a "morally superior high horse," as you call it, this is the truth of God's Word. ALL life is valued. Whether it fits into our life easily or not, whether the circumstances are extremely difficult and life-altering or not. The "teenage rape victim" and "12 year old victim of incest" are both horrible, awful situations that the self-indulgent nature of our society has made a reality. Pregnancies resulting from these circumstances are extremely rare, but the bottom line remains that these children should not be punished because of the awful choices their father made. Read more about that here.

I wouldn't ever question the blood of my Savior. There is nothing too heinous, too secret, too dark or deep that Christ cannot wash clean. That is the beauty of the cross. May God have mercy on anyone who believes anything else. I know amazing women who are have done amazing things and fought desperately for the sanctity of life because they have learned firsthand the horrific consequences of making the decision to take life. You and I together serve a compassionate God who is quick to show mercy and comes close to comfort His children.

I am so thankful your son can share life with his mother, that you can laugh together and learn and grow. But your specific circumstance was not what my post was referring to at ALL. I completely support the decision you had to make to save your own life.
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Anonymous said...

I find it ironic how all it takes for some people to be "offended" (and bitter) is for one person to speak TRUTH. You've got guts girl ;). Stay true to your convictions.

Angela said...

Thank you! Thank you for taking the time to leave your comment. I appreciate so much the support.

Anonymous said...

Good job my friend! All I can think of is God saying, "today I set before you, life and death. Choose life. You rock!

Anonymous said...

You are amazing. Stand up for what you believe. LIFE!!